How MinglMe Works - and Why It's Different
MinglMe grew from a simple but frustrating insight: it's easy to discover and start chatting with singles, but hard to actually meet in person. That's why MinglMe is built differently. Not to be different for its own sake, but to make it easier to truly connect.
We've designed out what stops meetings from happening
Many of the choices we've made may feel unfamiliar at first. "Why can't I chat right away?", "Why can't I see everything about a person?", "Why are the groups small?" But every element is there for a reason, and it almost always comes down to the same thing: making the step from thought to meeting a little bit easier.
That's why everything starts with an activity
On MinglMe, a connection doesn't begin with a chat – it begins with an activity. It could be a dinner, a dance night, a padel match, or an after-work drink – simply something you actually enjoy doing. And that changes the dynamic in an important way. When you share an experience with other singles, the focus is no longer on deciding whether you or the other person is "right." The pressure eases and it becomes easier to just be yourself. Many of our singles describe it the same way: it feels safe, fun, and social. You do something you enjoy while getting the chance to meet someone you might like. It could turn into a new romance, a new friendship, or simply a really great evening.
That's why the chat only opens once you've both booked
It might feel strange not to chat right away. But there's a reason for it. When we can talk without having committed to meeting, we often stay right there. The conversation becomes an alternative to meeting rather than a path toward it. That's why the chat opens only once you've both booked the same activity – at that point, you already know you're going to see each other, that you share the same interests, and that you're at a similar stage in life. The chat is a way to stay in touch – if you want to.
That's why not all information is shown in the profile
It's easy to assume that more information makes it easier to choose the right person – but usually the opposite happens. When we get too many details, we quickly start filtering people out. That's why profiles on MinglMe are simpler, leaving room for what actually matters: meeting in real life.
That's why you can mark someone as a favourite
Marking a favourite is a way to show interest without pressure. You don't have to write anything. You don't have to know exactly what you want. But you can signal that you're curious about this person and want to see which activities they're interested in – giving you the chance to book the same activity and meet in real life.
That's why many activities are held in smaller groups
We're often asked: why aren't all activities open to large groups? The number of participants is optimised for the activity, and hosts set the maximum to give you the best experience. We have activities for both large and small groups, but in smaller groups something different happens: it's easier to talk, easier to make contact, easier to feel at ease. You don't get lost in the crowd, and you don't have to fight for attention in the same way.
That's why MinglMe isn't about how many people are on it
We're used to dating apps where there's always someone else to swipe to – yet we also know how rarely those conversations actually lead to a meeting. MinglMe works differently. Here, it's not about how many profiles exist, but about whether meetings actually happen.
Those going to the same activity have already made several important choices: they share the same interest, they're at a similar stage in life, and – most importantly – they're showing an intention to meet in person. That's a really strong start, and what many would call "serious" dating.
That's why we balance between women and men
We actively work to create a good dynamic in every activity. That means balancing between women and men and opening up more spots as more people book. This means groups don't always look "full" at first – but it's also what makes them develop in a more thoughtful way. You don't need to wait for "lots of others" to be there first. All it takes is for you to book your spot. And what often happens then is that others do the same.
MinglMe isn't built for scrolling
MinglMe is a platform for activity-based dating where singles meet through activities in Stockholm. It's built so you actually get out there and meet someone for real. Our goal isn't just for you to find someone - it's also for you to feel more joy in being single along the way.
A warm welcome!
/Olga, founder of MinglMe
